As someone who reads Tarot I have the very privileged position of sitting with people who are often at their most vulnerable. The art of throwing the cards provides insight into where people are at, what they are hiding (often from themselves) and where they wish to be (if not secretly) among many other things.

No matter how often I sit with people, the most common questions I receive are about finding love. Each time the cards provide different answers, sometimes the way is clear and the ‘new love’ is seen very clearly, other times the cards point to the person doing more inner work on themselves before this love can come in.

In most cases I find myself sharing my story of how I ‘manifested’ my beautiful husband Gary into being and felt that maybe it was worthwhile writing it up for those who may be searching.

Here’s my story.

I had been single for such a long time and, to be honest, was a bit fed-up with men and the whole relationship thing. I had been in and out of relationships with various ‘non-suitables’ and I had decided that I had quite enough and had decided to stay single and not even bother to look.

At some point in that, ‘being single’, 8 months I remember sitting in my car, in traffic, on the way to work thinking about men (yeah, I know I pledged to be single an all, but I was allowed to think..ha ha) and how I was so over not having, if ever had, a GREAT relationship that lasted. Here I was 33 years old and longing to be happy and in love and connected with that ’special someone’ and yet here I was sitting in traffic knowing I didn’t have any of those things in my life currently.

I always kept a pad of post-it notes in my glovebox and I found myself pulling it out and writing furiously on this tiny little sticky note all of the ‘things’ I wanted in my ideal relationship and in my ideal man.

You see, I had heaps to draw upon. I had been out with guys that drank a lot, fought a lot, cheated, yes…a lot, worked a lot, had kids, lived at home, didn’t have a job….and who were kind, careless, mean, thoughtful, loving, rude, wealthy, spiritual, not spiritual, did drugs, didn’t do drugs etc..etc..etc.. I think you get the picture (I am sure if you have connected with this…you have many of your own stories).

So…I knew what I DIDN’T want. Which meant…I also knew what I DID want.

So, I wrote them all down. Every single feature. Every single trait. Every single belief. Every single value. I even wrote down what hair colour and eye colour and what car he would drive.

My tiny little post-it note was covered. I had writing on both sides, upside down, over things, sideways…you name it…it was completely full.

Then the traffic began to move and I threw the post-it note with all my scribblings back in the glovebox and never thought of it again.

I don’t remember how long it was, from that ‘fateful’ day, until I found the little note tucked away in my glovebox, while searching for my car service record. I do remember pulling it out and sitting down with it and going “oh my god, oh my god, this can’t be so”….

I remember running inside to Gary and letting him read this tiny little note, watching his mouth drop at all of the ‘things’ that he was and that I had ‘asked for’ on this tiny little note.

We have been together since 1999 and our relationship is ‘the one I created’ on that very fateful day.

The thing is. Not only did I do this – unbeknown to me. He did it also. He lived in another city and who would have known at the time we were creating the ‘pathway’ for us to meet.

So, if you are stuck and don’t know what to try next – I can certainly recommend putting pen to paper (or finger to keyboard) and getting down all of those ‘things’ you want in a relationship. All of those wonderful, magical, take your breath away things…cos….you just never know – they may just manifest!

With much love. Julianne xxx